Whirlwind of events

I have been around and around with our rental company about this move. All I am trying to get out of them is if the owners are planning on repainting when they return. However I have been yelled at for not "telling" the army when they have to move us. Since we have decided to go to post the army will move us. However as everything army related there are hoops I have to jump through on their timeline.
I went into housing on Wednesday this past week and got everything situated for us to take a 4 bedroom home on December 11th. I have been to the transportation office and they will move us, but I have to attend a briefing first on December 3rd.
Also on Wednesday I spoke with the receptionist at the rental office, Rose. She proceeded to tell me that even though they told me I have to move that I must give them notice by the 10th of November if I plan to move out in December and not pay the whole months rent. I said that I didn't know exactly when the movers could move our stuff and she said that was too bad since we we're "choosing to move in December". While that is a bit true since we are on orders for July I don't want to sign a 6 month lease with plans to break it so that requires I move out by about the 15th of December. I also gave the rental company a chance to help me find a place to move, but all they returned to me with was to move to a house in Clearwood (which is about 15-20 minutes further away from here on what has become quite a dangerous road in the winter and dark. Sorry but Tony already spends ~40 minutes driving and I don't want to drive it daily to take the kids to school.)  She was very rude and at one point told me I was taking the Clearwood offer "out of the context". Not really sure what was "out of context".  She also told me that she was/is military and that I just needed to call them up and tell them when I needed to move and that I needed to know when they were moving me. (At this point I hadn't been to the transportation office due to a misled office staff member at the office.)
After about 10-15 minuted of Rose yelling over me and not listening just yelling at me she hung up on me.
At that point I had to deal with my children so I let it go. About 15 minutes later a different staff member called to tell me that the owner of the company had overheard Rose's side of the conversation and wanted to know what was going on. He was filled in by the office and he said that since it was unique circumstances  and that they were asking me to vacate and that I was complying just before they had asked he said that they could allow me to give notice when I knew my dates. The second staff member did say though that they "work for the owners", which was helpful to me in solidifying that this move is on me and they won't care if I wait until January to move. If I don't find somewhere to live they don't care because I am not their concern. And because my kids are a great concern to me I have to be proactive and get moved to a place where we can live until time to go to Texas.
However to do things right I complied with their request to know a date far in advanced and just picked a date and will do my best to be out by then. I turned in my notice on Friday November 9th to be out by December 18th.
I am still hoping to talk to the rental agent about the moving out cleaning/painting. I want to be sure if I hire their cleaner that I will be returned my whole deposit. However the more I think about this situation and the whole cleaning vs. painting debate, I'm going to do the right thing and pray that God will make this situation right for me and help me through it.
But to make this clear, I don't want to move and this has been a horrible situation for me to have to deal with while Tony is deployed. He doesn't care either way as he'll support whatever I decide to do, that makes it no easier. I like the location we live in, I like the school the kids go to, I like the church we go to and most of all we have had our plan to move next summer for a year now and moving in Dec/Jan really messes that up as now we'll be responsible for clearing another house.
I am emotionally spent on this whole experience.